Please talk freely about both school shooting and bullying. I appreciate if you have personal experience with either and can share.
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never been bullied,but knew someone who hung themselves for it. U S should ban hand guns and shooting people cos you were bullied is no excuse
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I really don't know.It's the first thing to come to my mind too.I often wonder if the person holding the gun has been bullied so much,he can longer go on so takes the bullies out with him.
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Many people live through their lives undergoing adversity, however only a few CHOOSE to deal with adversity through violence. I really don't know if I was bullied..I was called names and teased because of the way that I looked, but in the end it never infiltrated my sense of self, I was very happy and thought very highly of myself, I wouldn't believe that anybody wouldn't like me...I didn't notice this part of me though until I became a mother of a child that is very similar. I think that life is about choices and you make your choices and deal with the consequences. I always felt sorry for the people who made fun of me...what was so wrong with them that they felt they had to be so mean to people...I never took it personally (for long anyway) my attention span for that type of attack was and is very small.
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Americans need to deal with some of their own major problems instead of invading and occupying other countries. Your country has so many problems but your women are busy shopping for clothes or looking like porn stars.
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I am a teacher and a social worker. My view is that the family as a unit, for so many families, does no longer exist. Family parents both need to work to support the family. Family eating habits are not those where the family sits down, nicely, at supper time, and discuss the day. There is lack of familial unity in almost every level. Children go to school, go to a sitter, or are latch key children with no adult to supervise them. Once home, everyone is busy! Parents are preparing for the next day's work, doing house work, laundry, and the children are left to 'fend' for themselves. Standard social procedures are no longer taught as they once were. Children feel they lack power. Getting their power comes, often, from bullying others. Children can't run next door and play with a friend, anymore.........that family is busy, too! Children who are supervised can't go outside and find someone to play with, as they used to be able to do. That would be dangerous in today's society. My six yr old grandson has no school mates to visit after school, as his parents tell me they don't know the parents.......they don't know what kind of people they are. So, he plays with his cousins, and that is the arena he is safe in, and he goes no farther. I care for this young boy, as both parents work, daily. My grandson is well mannored, and clean spoken. I have tried to FIND him other boys his age with which to play, while at my home. So far, the boys his age have filthy mouths, and no parenting that can be detected at all! Parenting skills have practically disappeared while the computer games and DVDs have taken their place. That is a real trajedy. These same parents are so shocked when they realize their young adults are on drugs or drinking heavily. They are quick to site, "Not our fault, we didn't do them around the kids!"..........uh, huh. The parent with the snack for the child who comes home from school, directly, no longer exists in most of our society. Children are not directed to socially accepted behavior. This, of course, is not meant for those parents who do make certain their children are well parented. The family, as a unit, is rarely seen in most churches, anymore, as well. Those who are, are to be praised..........if only because it does promote unity and responsibility. Responsibility for ones behavior is not being taught anywhere, for most young children. Time is precious, and time passes along, as we rush and hurry and make sure we get our work done, in house and at the work site. Money is scarce and jobs are important. Still, there must be a regular standard of behavior for our children, and we, as adults ARE responsible for teaching it while they are young, and throughout the teen years. Children and teens tell me they cannot speak to their parents.........they are too busy to talk to the children. Young girls don't even know how to approach their mother when they enter puberty. A society without rules that are enforced by parents, is a society that will 'grow' bullies and criminals. Did the parent ASK where that particular item came from, when they find something new or unfamiliar in their child's room? Did they check that out? Do parents, now, believe they only have time to tell their children what NOT to do, instead of what TO do? That is what I see. Life without rules that are kept, is like playing ball on a mountain top. Consider the mountain top has no fence.......there are cliffs completely surrounding the area. Rules are the fence. No rules, no fence, and the children fall off the cliff, while trying to catch the ball. With that secure fence, the children may play, and know when to stop their behavior........they live safely. ....they play ball in joy and no one has to worry about falling. I love children. I've worked with them all my life, and I am 63. I have been guardian, birth mother, foster mother, court advocate, and even had a baby left upon my doorstep! People love my adult boys and their children, as well. We explain to our children what IS o.k. to do, why it is o.k., and what happens if they don't do it. We never hit our children, we only told them we were disappointed if they broke a rule. Still, they grew up to be wonderful citizens and caring, loving people. They don't believe that hurting someone makes them right or strong. They know my rule about speaking in a too loud of a voice. I believe the first person who starts screaming has run out of logic and is cowering with a loud voice. You'd like my children.................all of them. I know I'm proud of them.
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I wouldn't necessarily relate them as an automatic cause and effect, but every shooting case I'm aware of that occurred in a grade school or a high school has a background of bullying (unprovoked battery) or harassment (including sexual). • Complaints the suspect generated about the abuse he'd been subjected to were generally dismissed by adult authority figures as "normal behaviour" if not disregarded altogether. • The systems of belief and etiquette favoured by the suspect's parents often did not take into account the moral need to stand up for oneself. He may be "too well behaved" and needs a sense of universal order in his life. He may at some point have expressed an interest in studying martial arts, or being sent away to boarding/military school, or just attend a faith-based school nearby, either of which would have been declined by the parents for financial OR PHILOSOPHICAL reasons. A bully on the other hand is someone who has not been effectively parented. He does not see his fellow humans as individuals with unique feeling and aspirations.
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Bullying is probably part of society worldwide and it does not limit to age or gender, and of course it is done by people with personality problems. Aggressive bullying goes even further, and the aggressor tends to seriously hurt (or kill) sooner or later. If you combine that with the COMPLETE freedom to purchase weapons in the U.S., you have the perfect lethal combination. While minors cannot legally purchase weapons, all adults can, and not ever being too far out of reach, it is really a wonder that there's not at least one school shooting every single day!
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I think it could be. Some people at my school get bullied for numerous things this one kid I knew got bulled for three years cause his parents make him wear a purity ring. this next kid deserves to be bullied cause he is such a racist to black, hispanics, asians, he's very rude. everyone has a point in their life when they can get bullied some people deal with it well, I used to not be able to I would always throw up my food cause the thought of eating made me sick to my stomach when I was bullied in fifth grade. some kids there's something wrong with them in their mind mentally that triggers something and having people they dont' even know calling them a "freak" or "physco" doesn't help. or you never know some people may bring their violence at home to school.
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A bullied student always feels a loss of prestige because he is made to feel inferior among his peers. He/she wants to get even but cannot do so physically because the bully is usually much bigger than his victim. So he resorts to a weapon, if one is available, to even the score. Often the bully is himself a victim of a bigger person and he evens the score by bullying a smaller guy. I think that there should be no guns in a house that has children even up to the age of 21. While at 15 or so the children look grown they are emotionally immature and do not stop to think of consequences before they act. My parents impressed upon me, when I was in school, that such people were to be avoided. Fighting just resulted in 2 bloody noses and did not prove anything. There are some parents who encourage fighting back because they feel that an insult to the kid is an insult to them. However children do not realize that killing is too drastic and permanent an answer to an unpleasantness. This is essentially the job of the parents to instill a respect for life, and a healthy fear of the consequences to a murderer. If he is made to realize the consequences of his actions by the time he is 6 or 7, this may not happen. Also the child needs to be able to talk about it to his parents without any judgment that he was a sissy for avoiding the bully.
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All those school shooters were victims of bullies and the more teachers refuse to stop bullying the more school shooting there will be.
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yes! we need to stop the bullying. i sympathise with these children who are teased so bad that they lose all control and instead of fighting they kill . this needs to stop. parents and teachers need to do something. pass a bill in congress to help your children and help teachers . my son is bullied and i was to. we need people to go to schools and do conferences and tell these kids that this needs to stop and if it doesn't then strict discipline needs to be put in to action. i remember trying to kill my self at 16 because i was teased so bad because i was really over weight. Now i'm successful and not so over weight. This needs to stop now. Soon we will not have our children safe.
